It's not my fault.

" ...but Bill you don't understand - it's not my fault."

I heard this again yesterday. He was talking about a mislabeled electric box that almost got a few people killed (myself included; sparks and natural gas are not a good combo). He was blaming it on the electrician, and you know what?

I didn't care.

I was mad. He has embellished the story to THE BRUNETTE one time too many, and now he's got me to deal with. I love interacting in a positive, upbeat manner, but sometimes I even snap and the contractor who remodeled her house has pushed me to that point.

He helped me figure out one thing though; I don't care whose fault it is. I care whose responsibility it is to get it fixed. We can point fingers all day, and people love to do that. I guess I'm just at a point in my life where I don't have time to point fingers.

This guy's a business owner and there he is telling me how "none of this is my fault." Well of course not. You didn't actually do any of the work. You hired people to do it - apparently so you could blame them when everything inevitably goes wrong. That's real mature, keep pointing fingers. I'll keep getting angrier.

All I wanted him to do is tell me how it was going to get fixed - and he did. Apparently, after he screws things up, I'm to call someone else to fix them. This guy really needs to be introduced to working smarter, not harder.

Let me explain it another way. You should look at things in your life and see if you're blaming someone for something that's wrong. Now, take it to the next step. That "thing" that you're blaming them for; whose problem is it? Is it their's? If yes, great, but if not, and it's your problem or responsibility you need to fix the problem. Then deal with fault after. You may find that blame doesn't matter at all.

My next blog will be about what to do with the assessment after the problem.

Take care.

Be better.

-Bill